We've all had those moments -- the ones where you want to look at someone and say "really, did you just say that?" You know, the insensitive comments about just relaxing, just adopting, just, just, just. I sort of wish I had kept a journal of all of the comments I've heard over the last 6 years of this journey.
As we've been sharing the news of our pregnancy over the last few weeks, 99% of the comments have been wonderful, with people saying how they prayed for this for us, tears, screeches, and so on. It's truly been amazing. But there have also been some comments that have really just made me go...."hmmmmmmm"
I recently had lunch with a friend I met through volunteer activities. After I told her my news, she said "the last person I know who announced their pregnancy had a miscarriage soon after." Um, okay, is that supposed to make me scared shitless? I was hoping for a bit more...um...excitement or positivity. Thanks...now I'm not so hungry anymore.
At work we have a morning meeting 4 days a week, so I made my announcement there. Someone who wasn't in the meeting came to my office later to congratulate me. (A little background -- this woman and I are NOT close and I limit my interactions with her because she will talk forever. I have also been very quiet about our journey at work). The first question out of her mouth was -- "was this planned or a surprise?" I became speechless over that question because I didn't expect it. I simply replied "planned, definitely planned." though I wanted to say "none of your dang business!"
She goes on to tell me about her niece, who planned her wedding around when she would ovulate (really -- people do that?), but did not factor into the mix that the stress of planning the wedding, might throw off her cycle a tad. So her niece was disappointed when she didn't come back from her perfectly timed honeymoon pregnant, and went to the doctor and cried about it. The next month she became pregnant. I replied "wow -- that's really great for her." but what I was thinking was "I bet she's really glad you are talking about her reproductive life with a stranger, and seriously -- she went and cried to her doctor after a month of not becoming pregnant???"
This same employee told me in the break room this week that people in the office were going to watch me just like the media was watching Princess Kate and her pregnancy fashions. Ummmm....gee thanks...that's a bit creepy....but thanks. I know she meant no harm by it, but still a bit creepy.
My final favorite question has come up a lot, and I just find it strange. When I share the news, a lot of people's first reaction is "is _________ (my hubby) excited?"
So, what's the funniest, stupidest, most insensitive thing someone has said to you during your IF/pregnancy journey?
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